To be counseled or not to counseled…that is my dilemma!

So in my last blog I mentioned that i went to the GP and was referred to see a counsellor. Well, I got the referral letter the other day and now I have to call them to make the appointment. However, I’m now doubting if I should. I feel pretty good and I’ve been this way for some time. I guess I’m not sure if I’ll need it. Plus, I think I should try the student counselling service again and tell them that I want to speak to someone there rather than anywhere else.

Any thoughts?


Comments Posted

Comment by Lucy posted on Fri, 20/11/2009 19:56

take what ever counselling you think is best for you. I would reccomend having the counselling though because you may be surprised how things are bothering you that you never realised. Also it will help you stay feeling better and more stable. They can help you cope with any further stressors and that is always useful! Maybe try your uni one first and see how that goes, go to your NHS referral but your counselling with them may not start for a while. This way you can see which one suits you better

Comment by Rees posted on Thu, 19/11/2009 02:58

I would definitely take some counselling if I were you. To be honest, if I had any sort of problem and visited my GP about it, I’d take their advice, otherwise what are they there for? To be honest, NHS waiting lists will probably be longer than your University’s, and you may as well give one of them a go just to see whether it’ll be worth your time doing it or not. It will also likely be worth doing just to touch in and let someone know that you’ve been experiencing difficulties in the past and that you might face them in the future. Even if you don’t feel weekly appointments are right for you then you can make an appointment for a month, just to ensure everything’s going OK. I’m always surprised at what I end up talking about in my counselling sessions, very rarely what I’m thinking about going into the session.

Basically, with waiting lists the way they are you may as well sign up if you even slightly think it’ll help or will be helpful in the future. If you decide you need to see someone at a later date you will most likely have to deal with some sort of waiting period. I’ve had two counsellors over the past year, one at Uni and one at home, and the help they have given has been invaluable.

Comment by Iona posted on Tue, 17/11/2009 20:46

Hi Aaron,

I’ve basically just been at those crossroads – thought I’d share my hindsight incase anything similar applies.

I just met my new counsellor today.  Before I went into the appointment I was thinking – maybe I don’t need weekly counselling at the moment, I’ve been relatively ok over the last couple of weeks.

During the appointment though I realised it is actually a good thing for me at the moment.  I may not be really struggling at the moment, but that doesn’t mean it will be useless – I’m still quite vulnerable around self worth and issues around ilness – and even though they’re not flashing red lights at the moment, the CBT-style counselling will help me address those areas so that I’m less vulnerable to depression in the future.  Being in a slightly better place at the moment is actually probably ideal as it means I will be able to concentrate during sessions and I don’t need to spend the sessions dealing with the here and now practical issues,

I guess my advice would be if you think you may have some underlying vulnerabilities then maybe now would be a good time to address them.  Another thing to consider is how frequently your mood is going up and down at the moment – if there’s a chance it might go down again over the next few weeks then maybe it’s a good idea to have the counselling in place.  Re: university vs NHS – I think it’s probably just personal preference.  I’ve used our university service or seen someone privately.

Good luck deciding,  I hope you’re happy with your decision.